How do i get an delusional 60yr. old women to stop making ridiculous, vicious, false statements about me?

This old bar hag has been two-facing me for a year at this bar I frequent. I feel respected by all the other regulars at this upscale resturaunt, but this old lady hates me. Ive done nothing to her or anyone she knows accept try to befriend her. She tells everyone im on drugs and am a wierdo, especially females Im into. Her malice gossip comes solely from her angry, bitter view of life but Im her target. How do I get her to quit? I just learned she's been doing this for a year! I can't take any more of her unwarranted vicious attacks on me and won't dodge her by not going there. I've been nice and respectful but can't take much more.How do i get an delusional 60yr. old women to stop making ridiculous, vicious, false statements about me?
I would sit down near her, well within earshot of a witness and tell her that you have had enough of her slanderous remarks, you have said/done nothing to deserve her unwanted attention and gossip, if she doesn't stop, she may have a law suit on her hands.





Worth a shot. Even if you don't sue, could be fun to watch.How do i get an delusional 60yr. old women to stop making ridiculous, vicious, false statements about me?
Be nice to her, and take comfort in the knowledge that she's probably going to die a lot sooner than you will. You'll have that bar to yourself before you know it!
i would say be rude back, but she's an old woman just tell her to shut up in front of a whole bunch of people and she'll be so embarrassed, she won't know what to say
you could confront her about this and if she keeps doing it anyways have her arrested for slander or you could stop going to that bar
You may have to resort to giving her a dose of her own medicine. She is just probably been pickled so long, that her brain absorbed too much vinegar.





I am sure that everyone in the bar knows she has mental problems. Just consider what she is and realize she probably has no control over it. I am also sure that nobody believes what she says about you anyway.





EDIT: Here is an expression I try to live by.


';When someone speaks ill of you, live so that no one will believe it.';
People will judge you on your own merits. They will ignore her. She is miserable. You don't have to be.





Few of us have the luxury of living our lives without someone else being jealous, spiteful or hateful behind our backs.





Run with the best, and ignore the rest.
I can understand that, A woman at 60 of her age there is no way to change her behavoir. Better you start to call her young lady and convince yourself not to annoyed with her. If you keep your mouth shut I mean if you keep quite then I am sure she will be tired what she is doing. Explain your female ladies that you are not what old lady is saying. If you are gonna teach that old lady it's like you are gonna force sun to raise from west instead of east.
I agree with Pacifica on this. If the woman has been doing this for a year, she is not getting tired of it...She has a reason, even if it's imagined. Take along a non-interesed guest to the bar next time, and tell your guest to only listen and remember your talk with the woman. Be very polite but firm, and tell her you are sorry that you have offended her in some way. Offer to buy her dinner%26amp;drink to make restitution for your lack of insight...you are sorry! See what she says...This is all you can do at this point. Be sure you have another witness to hear what you say, in any event. Good luck.
Heck, I'd take her flowers! Serve the old bag right! But, don't forget, her brain isn't working properly; maybe she can't help it.
If the statements are really false, everyone will know it. The only reason to be concerned is if she is spreading vicious rumors which may have a grain of truth to them.





Confrontation with old people is never a good idea, just adding fuel to the fire; they never think they're wrong and they hardly ever change their behaviour.





I know you said you can't take much more, but hell it's been going on for a year. She is pathetic and sad. You are better than that.





I would ignore her.